May/December romances

[GracieMae]

Are you for or against them? Why?

[Book Wizard]

They happen. I don't think it is my place to approve or disapprove of a relationship between two adults.

[Peanut]

They happen. I don't think it is my place to approve or disapprove of a relationship between two adults.

I agree, on the condition that the relationship is based on love and mutual respect.

[Manda]

Are you for or against them? Why?



what is a May/December romance?

[Loveone]

what is a May/December romance?It's where a guy is in his 40's or older(or woman) and the girl is in her 20's or older(or guy)....such as Demi Moore and whats his name! LOL

[Loveone]

I see nothing wrong with them as long as both parts are adults.

[Demona]

I think it throws up its problems, as any relationship can. The individuals involved are probably at different points in their lives and are more likely to want different things, but if they can make it work, I have no objection.

I must admit, I probably am cynical about the reasons older people would want to be in a relationship with someone young and attractive, but that doesn't translate into being against them, and I'm sure all such couplings are not on this basis. If everyone knows where they stand, that's fine.

[Melinda-Q]

Are you for or against them? Why?


I am neither FOR or AGAINST them. I have very mixed feelings about them.

My sister who is in her early 20's is married to man who is 35 or 36. I am baffled by this at times and wonder what a man 36 years old could really want or have in common with a young 20-something. Then again, I had one set of grandparents that were 16 years apart and they had a seemingly wonderful relationship (9 children between them and together until they day my grandfather died).

If I were single today (at almost 35) I would probably prefer an older man (45-55).

I think a lot has to do with the individual maturity levels of the parties involved.

[Shannonigans]

I think Melinda hit it on the head...to me it's all about the age of the parties.

For example, I was 27 when I met my current husband, who is almost 9 years older than me. We get along quite well but if I were to have met him at 20 or 21 I probably wouldn't have had a THING in common with him because I've grown. KWIM?

When I hear of a man in his 70's marrying a woman in his 20's I DO kind of think badly, it makes me think of Anna Nicole but I think that was just a really tabloid one. Who was that actor, Tony Randall, he was married for 50 years and had no children, his wife died and he remarried a 20 something woman and finally had 2 beautiful kids. Was he selfish? In many ways, yes, but look what he did have in his 'golden years'

I definitely think it's all about the age and maturity of the parties involved! I think younger people tend to do better with people closer to their own age, as you progress into your mid to late 20's and 30's it's a lot easier to marry and get along with someone who is 10 or even 20 years older.

[Demona]

Then again, I had one set of grandparents that were 16 years apart and they had a seemingly wonderful relationship (9 children between them and together until they day my grandfather died).


But a generation or two ago, a woman in her late teens / early twenties and a man in his mid to late thirties were at the same point in their lives - both would be expecting to settle down and have children. That generally isn't true anymore, with women having more choices than just immediate motherhood, and men no longer expected to bear the financial burden of children alone.

[Jory]

Was he selfish? In many ways, yes, but look what he did have in his 'golden years'

Huh? Why was he selfish?

I am not against May/December relationships, for any reason as long as both know what they are getting into. Sometimes they are very loving relationships, sometimes they are conveniece relationships (for both parties). Friend's father married for convienence. He was fairly wealthy, but not in great health. He met and married a woman 20 years younger (he in his fifties, she in her thirties). She lived a comfortable life, and he had great companionship and care until she died. She was faithful to the marriage, but I wouldn't say that she loved him like a true spouse. It was a win win situation for them though and the rest of his family loved her as well. Luckily, he was wealthy enough, and generous enough that no one got nasty during the will procedings.

[Jory]

Was he selfish? In many ways, yes, but look what he did have in his 'golden years'

Huh? Why was he selfish?

I am not against May/December relationships, for any reason as long as both know what they are getting into. Sometimes they are very loving relationships, sometimes they are conveniece relationships (for both parties). Friend's father married for convienence. He was fairly wealthy, but not in great health. He met and married a woman 20 years younger (he in his fifties, she in her thirties). She lived a comfortable life, and he had great companionship and care until she died. She was faithful to the marriage, but I wouldn't say that she loved him like a true spouse. It was a win win situation for them though and the rest of his family loved her as well. Luckily, he was wealthy enough, and generous enough that no one got nasty during the will procedings.

[DiznieB]

They happen. I don't think it is my place to approve or disapprove of a relationship between two adults.


My thoughts exactly. I have known couples with as many as 15 years between them who were successful. My husband is 7.5 years older than me and even he can stand to be a FEW more years older!! LOL.