Can people REALLY be bi-sexual...?

[Michele]

Do people make a conscious choice to prefer one sex over the other? Do you think that some people are born to love both sexes?

[GracieMae]

I personally believe you are either heterosexual or homosexual. I believe it very well may be genetic.

In my opinion bi-sexual people are curious but I really don't believe it to be genetic.

[mom2burgess]

I tend to agree with Gracie. I think you are either heterosexual or homosexual, and bi sexuality is a choice you make.

[Loveone]

Do people make a conscious choice to prefer one sex over the other? Do you think that some people are born to love both sexes?
Well I am bi, I like both men and women. I know I can live without having another woman, but I would like to be with one again. I know that I can't live without being with a man. So I guess in some way I am more heterosexual then bi-sexual.

My sister on the other hand is gay, she had know that she was gay from the time she was four(as she says). I think she was born that way but tried to fight it because of my parents teaching her that it was wrong and a sin.

[Truffles]

Well I am bi, I like both men and women. I know I can live without having another woman, but I would like to be with one again. I know that I can't live without being with a man. So I guess in some way I am more heterosexual then bi-sexual.
Ditto.

[Shannonigans]

I feel the same way as Brigitte and Loveone...I think I'm happier with a man, though and would *probably* not be happy in a fulltime relationship with a woman.

But I can see how people are bisexual...I don't see it as any different than straight or gay.

:)

[Shannonigans]

And maybe men would disagree and I'd love more input but I think the majority of people bisexual are women...hmmm lots to think about here. Good topic.

[kokopelli]

Sure, I think people are born to be attracted to both sexes. A conscious choice can be made to only date/sleep with, etc. one gender, but I don't think you can control who you're attracted to.

[Clio]

I fall in love with the person, not the gender.

[Epicurus]

I think it is entirely possible. I dated a man who was bi once. Ok dated is a kindness. I had a sexual relationship with this hottie many years ago before hubby :party:

Collette

[kingclick]

I believe that our sexuality is like a line.

Hetero________________BI__________________Homo


And some people land somewhere on that line....

Hetero______kl_________BI__________________Homo

Hetero_____________LO_BI__________________Homo

Hetero________________BI_____Ellen__________Homo

[Slabobbin]

I don't really understand why some would be willing to believe that homosexuality is genetic but bisexuality is not. That doesn't make sense to me. Humans are so complex that they can't really be put into a box and labeled and that be that.

And I don't know if KL was joking or not but I actually agree with what he said above.

[kingclick]

Not joking. Very serious! Some people here can probably recognize this philosophy from Wanna Debate.

[Loveone]

I believe that our sexuality is like a line.

Hetero________________BI__________________Homo


And some people land somewhere on that line....

Hetero______kl_________BI__________________Homo

Hetero_____________LO_BI__________________Homo

Hetero________________BI_____Ellen__________Homoac tually my line is more like this

Hetero_______________BI-Me______________Homo :)

[Taneli]

And maybe men would disagree and I'd love more input but I think the majority of people bisexual are women...hmmm lots to think about here. Good topic.

Hmmm... I do think that the majority of bisexuals are women. And I don't know why it is so... (that's a good research topic...)

I'm stricly heterosexual... Sometimes I have thought about that... I'm not so much of a manly man as you can think. I don't really dig cars, and that machosism is just childish in my thinking. But even then I am not attracted to men... well, that rules all of it out. I can't say why it is so, it just is... Heh... even then, I am amused from some of these responces I get... "What? Taneli is a man? I never knew that!"... That always brings a smile to my face...

Ok... I was rambling a bit in there... I hope you got down what I meant... :)

[Demona]

I'm just stunned that people could think homosexualiy is genetic, but assume bisexuality is not.

For a start, we don't know that homosexuality is genetic. But even supposing for the sake of this argument that it is, it is unlikely to be the product of a single gene - few traits are (even discrete purely physical traits can be the result of the interraction of many genes) and certainly not something as complex as sexuality. So you cannot assume that there is a gay gene, and that if you have it you're gay, and if you don't you're straight and thus concluding that bisexuality cannot possibly be genetic.

[Demona]

Hmmm... I do think that the majority of bisexuals are women. And I don't know why it is so... (that's a good research topic...)


I know someone who worked on an university LBG commitee, and thus had access to statistics relating to sexuality. Apparently, the proportion of non-heterosexuals is about the same for men and women, but that of the non-heterosexuals, more men are homosexual and more women are bisexual. As to reason, I cannot help you.

[Niles]

I actually read an article at one point that said that sexuality, and sexual attraction is more genetically hardwired in men than in women. There were some pretty convincing biological reasons for this, that basically boiled down to the fact that men are gentically programmed to reproduce as often as possible, so the connection between "attraction" and sexual performance is more instinctive in men. Plus a man's ability to reproduce it lifelong. That is why men tend to be either heterosexual, or homosexual, and very few are bi-sexual. Whether this "hardwiring" is present at birth, or can be re-wired early in life, is up in the air, but it seems the "hardwiring" does exist. This is also why more men than women tend to be involved in fetishes, or why more men than women are involved in sexual crimes (their hardwiring gets programmed, or is programmed to violence). That is also why sexual issues (like pedophilia) are almost impossible to change or "cure", because once the exist they are basically very "instinctive" not something the men think about.

Women on the other hand, do not have a biological need to respond sexually often or quickly. In fact it is in the biological self interest to NOT respond sexually easily (to keep from overtaxing their bodies by over reproducing). So for women the sexual response is more a decision than an instinct if you will. Thus a woman's sexuality is more a choice than it is for men, so women tend to be more in the middle, and their sexuality (like their reproductive ability) tends to be more fluid throughout life. That is why it is farily common to see women that are heterosexual long enough to reproduce, but afterwards will be attracted to women, as much as they are attracted to men.

I don't know if I completely buy this arguement but it is certainly interesting, and antedotally easy to support.

[DiznieB]

I am strictly attracted to MEN. :eyebrow:

[Echo2]

I see human sexuality as being very fluid also. I think if we draw a line and put Homosexuality on one end and heterosexuality on the other end people would fall at all different intervals on the line. Some more hetero than others, some more homo than others and some near the center (bi). I do not believe sexual orientation is a choice. When you consider the number of gay and lesbian people in the population, (isn’t it around 11%?) it is hard to believe that that many people would purposely choose to be a sexual orientation that is persecuted by both the government and the populace. Just doesn’t make sense.

Although I believe that people are born bi, I also believe that there are a percentage of free thinking people with loose sexual morals that call themselves bi who are most likely just doubling their fun so to speak.

Bottom line is though, I couldn’t care less who anyone else sleeps with as long as it is an adult and it is mutual. I don’t care who anyone marries or shacks up with or what they call themselves. It just doesn’t impact my life or the security of our nation or the economic flow of our country.

I get pretty ticked off at the (often Christian) conservatives who want to label everyone. Why do we have to have labels for our sexual orientation (hetero or homo or bi) or what anyone’s union is called (marriage or garraige). It is just so petty.

[Demona]

Although I believe that people are born bi, I also believe that there are a percentage of free thinking people with loose sexual morals that call themselves bi who are most likely just doubling their fun so to speak.


If they can be attracted to both sexes, they're bi to some extent, no question - that's what it means. They have merely made the decision to express there sexuality in meaningless sex. A woman who cannot make an emotional connection with a man but still has lots of sex exclusively with men for the fun of it would still be described as a heterosexual.

You could say we hit a problem here of quite how much sexuality implies about emotional life. Myself, I'm probably more immediately attracted to women, but as friends, let alone lovers, I generally prefer the company of men and thus cannot see myself in a long-term relationship with a woman. Does that make me more heterosexual, or more homosexual?

[Echo2]

.You could say we hit a problem here of quite how much sexuality implies about emotional life. Myself, I'm probably more immediately attracted to women, but as friends, let alone lovers, I generally prefer the company of men and thus cannot see myself in a long-term relationship with a woman. Does that make me more heterosexual, or more homosexual?

I think that makes you somewhere in the middle (bi). It sounds like you have given this a lot of thought and know yourself well. I respect that immensly.