How far will/did YOU go to get pregnant?

[Shannonigans]

How far did you go or how far will you go to get pregnant? Is there any point that you wouldn't past in order to conceive? Past that point, will/would you think of adoption or just think that perhaps parenthood wasn't meant to be for you?

[Shannonigans]

I guess I should answer my own thread!

I honestly don't know 'how far' I would go. Right now, we are just at the beginning. I have PCOS and know that I'll have a fair fight. I'm very comfortable with clomid and even some injectibles and artifical insemination. I'm not so comfortable with the idea of hyper-ovulation and IVF but I would consider it. I would only do 2 or 3 cycles of IVF and if it didn't work, I would persue adoption 100% because I want to be a parent more than anything.

[Lola]

I was willing to go as far as my insurance would cover. Fortunately, it only came down to two rounds of clomid.

You know what's so weird? 2 out of the 4 babies were from using birth control.

[Lunabella]

I would have done everything possible. I have endometreosis and cannot believe I got pregnant on the second cycle! I feel so so fortunate. We discussed it at length what we would do and we would have done anything...including fertility drugs to IVF.

IF it does not happen again, I would accept only having one child, or I would consider adoption.

[Quamie]

I am not sure but at this point we are testing those limits. I thought this would be easy. I would go off BCP and get knocked up :D :p . Well this is our 5th month trying and it hasent happened. Well today I went out and purchased a $179.00 Fertility Monitor. Spent $50 on the test strips that have 30 in a box and should last me 3 months.
http://www.clearplan.com/TheClearplanEasyFertilityMonitor.cfm

I NEVER thought I would go this far, I just knew it would happen. Well I was wrong and the longer it takes, each month that AF comes to visit I ask my self this very question. I have even talked it over with my hubby just a little bit. And he is adopted and we are willing to do that EVEN when we have children. But our desire is to have a child from the both of us. At this time I am charting(2nd month) and I will be using the FM for this month.alos. Maybe this will happen for us.

On a funny note Lola I totaly understand. I had 2 OPPPPS or more like OHHH MY FREEKEN GOSHDAMN IT ALL TO HELL's PG. On the freegen pill, two different brands. I do know how to read and I did take them right. :rolleyes:

I love that question, but yeah 2 times on the pill but now when I am trying NO luck. I keep saying that I will get back on the pill and it will happen. :D

[OnederWoman]

Fortunately, as far as I had to go conceiving Jake was 2 rounds of Clomid/Serophene. I don't know what I would have stopped at. Cloning, I suppose. Perhaps surrogacy. I would have done IVF, IUI in a heartbeat without thinking about it.

As far as "not being meant to have children", I think that's a crock of crap, personally. Because then what does that say about the (enter typical argument) woman addicted to crack who's pregnant with her 5th child? She was meant to have children and I'm not? Sorry, I don't buy that. I don't understand why people have a problem with infertility being a disease. You wouldn't say, "well, after two round of chemo, the cancer is still here. I guess it's meant to be."

[kingclick]

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Anything more than trying to figure out the correct ovulation times would have been too far.

If we were meant to have a child, we could get pregnant the good old fashioned way....

[Christine]

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Anything more than trying to figure out the correct ovulation times would have been too far.

If we were meant to have a child, we could get pregnant the good old fashioned way....
So what if someone doesn't ovulate regularly or at all? What if someone has a low sperm count? Are they not meant to be parents? That's like saying that anyone who can get pregnant should.

When we conceived our youngest, we were taking a break after six months of Clomid and before we started IUI. We would have done IVF, if necessary.

I believe that if someone can afford it (financially, physically, mentally and spiritually), then they should be able to go all out to conceive.

[kingclick]

1. So what if someone doesn't ovulate regularly or at all?
2. What if someone has a low sperm count?
3. Are they not meant to be parents?
4. That's like saying that anyone who can get pregnant should.

When we conceived our youngest, we were taking a break after six months of Clomid and before we started IUI. We would have done IVF, if necessary.

I believe that if someone can afford it (financially, physically, mentally and spiritually), then they should be able to go all out to conceive.
Hmmm.
If that "someone" is ME?

1. Then we might get lucky.
2. Then we try our best to find a non-invasive non-medicated way to increase the sperm count.
3. If that someone is ME yes I am not meant to be a parent.
4. It's not saying that anyone who can get pregnant should. I don't see the connection.


Just because someone CAN procreate does not mean that they are meant to be parents.

[Michele]

We went as far as 1 round of clomid with IUI. We were not comfortable with IVF. If IUI didn't work, we would adopt. We still hope to adopt some day. :)

[Minnie_Beebe]

I went as far as nature intended.

[Val]

I went through a hysterosalpingogram and a laproscopy to find out WHY I wasn't getting pregnant (one side of tubes don't work).

I already had qualms about any reproductive assistance that involved selective termination (i.e. fertilizing a bunch of eggs and not using them all and/or terminating some if too many "take"). The lap confirmed my feelings that I did not want any further invasive surgery to get pregnant.

Kind of ironic since I ended up with two c-sections in the end, but honestly, i thought the laproscopy was a harder recover than the c-sections! :)

After the laproscopy, we decided we would speak to a reproductive specialist about things like an IUI wash and other non-surgical, non-hormonal help that might help us conceive, but we'd pretty much decided we were not going to drug or surgery route. We decided to give it three more months than start adoption proceedings, and that's when I got pregnant.

[DayDreamer]

If I had not gotten pregnant through a normal sexual relationship, I would not have opted for any infertility measures (no drugs, no procedures, nothing).

[Shannonigans]

I'm curious...but it seems that the majority of posters who said they would not do any type of fertility testing, etc...are the ones who got pregnant WITHOUT any help anyway, who have no fertility issues.

So playing Devil's Advocate here...do you think that if you had encountered fertility problems that you'd feel the same way? Just imagine not having your children. I had a friend in college who felt the same way. She had one little girl after just 2 months of trying but suffered from secondary infertility. She did a complete turn around and tried clomid, IUI and finally conceived twins on her first IVF cycle.

So in my book, never say never. :) I tell myself and others that I don't really know how far I'll go because I'm not there yet!!

[DayDreamer]

In answer to your question, Boo Boo.... If I had encountered fertility problems, I would have felt the same way. I never actually PLANNED to have children anyway. For me, having children wasn't that all-consuming need that it is for some people. I wouldn't trade my children for ANYTHING, but I could have been content to be childless as well.

[Truffles]

We went throughs years of TTC and various ART due to my PCOS. We conceived Joshua and Katerina on our first IVF attempt. After them, we tried FET twice (embies from the same cycle as Joshua and Katerina) with the first FET attempt ending in miscarriage and the second FET ending with Isabella.

If we would have had multiple unsuccessful IVF attempts, we wouldn have gone through with International adoption. We probably would have looked for an egg donor as well.

Since cloning technology isn't there yet, we couldn't have done that but if it were viable, legal, and reasonably affordable we probably would have investigated it at the very least.